5 REASONS RELATIONSHIPS FAIL

Many will claim most relationships end
because of two things; sex and/or money.
This might be true, but ask yourself if your
relationships end because of either sex or
money, then was it really a real relationship?
I’ve dug a little deeper and have come up with
the five main reasons why relationships fail
and how you and your partner can ensure
they don’t affect your relationship.
1. Lack of awareness
Stop blaming others for your actions, you only
have yourself to blame for everything you do
in life. Image: Courtesy
Great relationships know it’s important to
understand each other and even more
important to be aware of our own actions.
We all make mistakes, but those who don’t
learn from the past will continue to repeat the
same mistakes and get the same negative
results. Resulting in a never ending story of
bad relationships.
Stop blaming others for your actions, you only
have yourself to blame for everything you do
in life. We’ve all made bad decisions, use
them as life lessons and move forward.

Remember when things go wrong, like you
have an argument or you do something that
upsets your partner. Take some time to think
about what you did, analyse what you did
wrong and take those things with you through
life.
This will help ensure you don’t repeat the
same mistakes and bring a calm to your
relationship.
Being self aware means understanding and
controlling your emotions as well as
recognizing our destructive thought patterns
so we can control them wisely.
2. Lack of commitment
Commitment is when you tell and show your
partner that you see your future with them in
it. Image: Courtesy
People who are not dedicated to their
relationship or partner will see a negative end
to their relationship.
Most people enter or start a new relationship
with a vision or plan. We think meeting
someone we are attached to sexually or we
have fun with is enough to start a
relationship. Waiting to ‘see how things go’
whilst enjoying the honeymoon period.

Commitment is when you tell and show your
partner that you see your future with them in
it, you might even talk to them about it often
to reassure and remind each other.
The strength created from showing
commitment can help couples get through
almost anything.
Couples who lack commitment end up settling
in negative relationships. Deep down this lack
of commitment drives fidelity and other
negative qualities.
3. Lack of communication
Learn to control your thoughts, you can’t
always speak your mind whenever you want.
Image: Courtesy
They say that communication works for those
who work at it.
Strong couples know the value of real and
honest communication. The kind that allows
you both to talk freely and openly to one
another without fear of the other person
getting angry, aggressive or judging you.
When you need to discuss important subjects
make sure you arrange set times to do this.
Times you are both calm, relaxed and are as
stress free as possible. Be flexible,
understanding and be prepared to lead as well
as have a plan.

Learn to control your thoughts, you can’t
always speak your mind whenever you want.
If you constantly speak your mind, with no
care for your partner’s feelings, this comes
across as extremely selfish.
If you raise a fragile subject at an
inappropriate time then your partner might
feel ambushed and see it as an attack, just
before bed or directly after work for example.
This will result in anger and your partner
shutting down.
If you focus on your communication skills,
you’ll find almost all your so-called ‘problems’
can be eased or taken away. You’ll develop
more intimacy and feel a deeper and safer
love. Start small and work on it daily.
4. You have no boundaries
Setting boundaries are an essential part to
any healthy relationship. Image: Ian Isherwood
This might be the biggest reason most
couples do not make it.
Setting boundaries are an essential part to
any healthy relationship. Unfortunately, setting
and keeping our boundaries is a skill only a
few of us ever master.
Setting clear boundaries for yourself and your
relationship is extremely important, not only
for the relationship, but for your general
health as well.

Respecting your and your partner’s boundaries
shows commitment, trust and respect to one
another.
Solid boundaries help give clear understanding
of what we want and what our partner wants,
or expect from the relationship.
Don’t be unreasonable when setting
boundaries and always be prepared to
compromise if needed as well as changing
them over time.
Remember setting boundaries takes courage,
practice and support but it is a skill we can
all master over time.
5. No freedom
If you don’t give your partner the freedom
they need, you risk losing everything. Image:
Ian Isherwood
Freedom is what we all want, across the
world wars are being fought in the name of
freedom. This should give you an idea of how
important it is to each one of us.
When your partner feels free to be
themselves, they are free to grow the way
they have always grown.
With the support and reassurance that you
give them, they end up giving back to you the
same freedom and support you need and
want. It’s a two way street and should always
be given equally.

If you don’t give your partner the freedom
they need, you risk losing everything. They will
seek freedom in other forms such as another
relationship or by having an affair.