WHY MEN DON'T KNOW DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE AND SEX

Some of these young ladies have been made to believe they have to sleep with their partners in order to show them how much they love them. This is a big misconception as most of these ladies end up being shattered after they break up.
It is quite possible for you to share beautiful moments with a man without getting down; there are many couples who waited till their wedding nights. This did not change the feelings they have for each other as they learned to treat each other with respect before consummating their love.
Most men do not know how to tell love apart from lust; everything is in one direction for men like that. They believe everything they do with a woman has to boil down to bodies grinding and staying entwined for hours.
There are a number of factors that could be responsible for that. This piece is going to reveal the reasons men confuse love with sex; this will help you a great deal as you will be able to do things the right way from this moment.
Find below some of the reasons men do not know the difference between love and sex:
1. Insecurity
It has been observed that one of the reasons men cannot tell the difference between love and sex is insecurity. They settle for sex and tell themselves they are in charge; they also coerce the women they come in contact with to do their will in order to prove they love them.
This is because some of these men convert their need for intimacy, love, care, comfort and affection into sexual desires. Once they are able to get this from their partners, it is translated to love. Men who have low self-esteem tend to mix up these two things.

2. The need to be held
Some men opt in for sex when they are depressed and sad; they believe consummation will help them come out of that dark place. The physical comfort they also get from being held sends the wrong signal to them; many of them translate this to be love.
Sex makes many men feel they already know the women enough; they skip the important steps they need to take in order to know the women.
3. Pseudo-charm
Most times we meet people, we often get carried away by their charms. These charms send the wrong message to the brain and body.
Most people find themselves in the bedroom before they could say jack; because things happen very fast sometimes, some men do not know what to make of the union.

4. Both end the same way for men
Another reason why some men cannot tell the difference between love and sex is as a result of their mentality. Many men treat both the same way; sex can be different from love if it was taken as an action that supports reproduction or when it is being done for distraction.
Love is expected to writhe and moan with pleasure beneath them. Sex happens with the men getting emotional at one point or the other.

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5 GUIDELINES TO DATING A SINGLE DAD

If you have kids of your own,dating a single dad can be fulfilling but can also bring its challenges which include the ex who is most likely to be the mom of his kids. So even though you two may be blindly in love, with this kind of relationship you need to factor in the children from the get go. Below are 5 tips that will help you have a great relationship with that single dad you want to date.
1. RESPECT THE BABY MAMA
whether their relationship is great or they can't see each other anymore, never trash her. Especially not in front of the kids, yours or his. Remember she was once someone special to him and is still his kids mother. What you really want is to set a positive tone for the new relationship based on you two and the kids and your life together.
2 . DON'T BE JEALOUS
If you don't have children of your own,and you want to date a single dad, be sure of what you are in for. With his kids around,he will not devote to you entirely. He may even delay your meet with his kids until he is satisfied you are up for it. Don't take this personally. Remember that his kids will always come first and if you can't handle sharing his affection then the single dad isn't your type.
3. HE HAS BAGGAGE
If you are serious about dating that single dad, you should be ready to accept him with all that is attached to him. Children, bills, ex wife issues etc. After all you want him to accept you with everything you bring to the table.
4. TAKE YOUR TIME
When you are in love,it practically a license for you to hurt each other. If you have kids, you are giving him a chance to hurt you and your kids and it is extremely important you don't rush and test the different aspects of your relationship before you introduce yourselves to each others kids. Wait until you are sure you are both committed to seeing your relationship in the long haul before you meet with his kids or yours meet him.
5. SPEND TIME WITH HIS KIDS
Create time for you and his kids and if you have kids to  encourage him to do the same with yours. His kids are an extension of him and if you can't learn to love them,the relationship is pretty much doomed. This applies to him also. Remember you two chose each other and your kids didn't have a say in it. Give them time to grow, know and love you

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5 MISTAKES WOMEN DO IN THE BEDROOM

It is common to blame the man for the various mistakes that happen in bed,but as the blame game it is,women too make tonnes of sex mistakes. Below are some of the most common mistakes women make in the bedroom.
1. NOT INITIATING SEX
Women fear that they will appear pushy or come too strongly demanding a nookie. And as tradition has dictated, women often expect the man to be the initiator of love making in a relationship. But what they don't know is that men also want to be pursued by their partners too as it is a boost to the male ego.
2.ANGER TOWARDS HIS SUGGESTION
There is that moment when sex becomes dull and spicing it up is the usual course of action. When your man suggests something new it doesn't mean he is unhappy with the relationship or doesn't love you anymore. Don't take it personally. Though it is important to tune into your comfort zone,and not to do things that are uncomfortable, give a thought to his suggestions and openly talk about them.
3.COMPARING LOVERS
No two men make love the same,last the same or are equally endowed. Women should stop comparing the different men they made love to and learn to apprentice the positives of each man and get the Best he has to offer. Women should know that not all men have had the experience or desire on how to please a woman but can learn when prodded
4. NOT GIVING GUIDANCE
Women should take responsibility of their sexual encounters. Even the best lovers can not know what a woman needs without her letting him know. Women should not shy away from talking to their men, leading the way and guiding their men to their(women) satisfaction.
5.'HE IS ALWAYS UP FOR SEX'
Most teenagers will surely jump at the slightest hint of sex but that can't be said for men. Family, job,bills can reduce a man's libido. The lack of interest shocks most women who in return tend to take it personally. When he isn't in the mood does not mean he doesn't love you. He just doesn't want to make love

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WHY KENYAN WOMEN ARE TO BLAME FOR BAD RELATIONSHIPS

Allure of foreign men
I also read somewhere that it was some West
African oil tycoon bankrolling Vera Sidika’s
larger-than-life lifestyle. Chic posts flashy new
pictures every second on Instagram like it’s her
job, yet she can still afford a half-a-million-
shilling weave, a quarter-million-shilling pair of
heels, supposed fifty-million-shilling skin-
lightening surgery, three nights at the
prestigious Villa Rosa Kempinski and a holiday in
Dubai — if gossip sites are anything to go by
these days.
Then I read again that one of my celebrity
crushes, Habida, had said “Yes” to an Igbo
mister and relocated to the West; that Avril has
committed to a Zulu man and wedding bells are
lurking in the shadows and that Jolene of Tahidi
High had received a brand new Kompressor as a
birthday present from her South African
sweetheart.
I read in silence. Profound— albeit disturbed —
silence. And I wondered what it was that these
bozos had that we, Kenyan men, didn’t. I
wondered what it was that was driving our
lovely women away from their motherland to
foreigners. I wondered what a loud guy with an
accent sounding like he had just swallowed a
live frog and it peed in his mouth could possibly
do/say to my woman to make her walk out my
door and straight into his arms.
The ladies told me we don’t treat them right,
that our Oga brodas are as romantic as it gets.
And I retorted that I know I’m a douche myself,
but even then, I pull out the seat for my dates
every once in a while. And I’m a broke, good-for-
nothing son of a mere high school teacher, but
I’ve once hired a taxi to and from a date. Come
to think of it, I never even got laid that night.
Women! Huh!
Outrageous demands
Some told me it was about the money; that our
pockets just aren’t deep enough. Or that we are
too mean to go all out. To these women, I told
the story of a certain Phil [not his real name], a
former campus chum of mine who moved his
beloved out of the institution hostels into her
own fully-furnished, two-bedroom apartment.
With a 42’ inch flat screen television, state of
the art sound system et al. She had these
outrageous demands, which Phil tried his best
to meet.
Lack of gratitude
When I thought really hard about it, I realised
that maybe we weren’t the ones with the
problem. It could just as easily be the women.
See, dating a modern day Kenyan girl is as
demanding as it is tiring. You’d think you were
pulling an unmoving truck glued to your bottom.
You go out of your way to make her happy but
for her lack of gratitude, she will never
acknowlege your efforts.
It will always start slow; you on your best
behaviour and she playing ridiculously hard to
get. You will take her to lunch, probably at
Galitos (because that’s where all the ‘cool cats
are’); buy her chocolates and ice cream on her
birthday; take her for evening coffee at
Gibson’s; meet her friends and act like you’re
the nicest character on earth, tolerating all their
bull$#!t and non-stop gossip; you will even take
her out once in a while for a good time, where
you may end up spending much more than you
bargained for ‘cause these girls “don’t do cheap
liquor” then hire a cab and drop her drunken butt
back home as you walk.
‘Used and dumped’
Then she will begin feeling and hanging around
you more; getting touchy-freely with you all the
time, calling you sweet names. The goodnight
hugs will turn into pecks and then, with time,
full-blown kisses.
Then she will finally open the doors of her
kingdom and you will slide in majestically,
almost like a veteran soldier heading out to war
with a Third World country, with the precision of
a butcher.
She will moan and scream your name with a few
inferences to the glorious Man Above and you
will feel accomplished, proud and more like a
man than you ever had before. And a voice
inside you will— almost boastfully— say. “Yes,
say my name, Baby. Say my name. You smart.
You loyal!”
She will agree to a relationship the next
morning. Count yourself lucky if she doesn’t ask
the one question no man wants to hear after a
romp. Ati, “So what are we?” To which my
response is always BFFs (best friends forever).
I’ve been punched by a lady before though, so
gentlemen don’t try this at home. I know enough
men who have been used and dumped.
A couple months or so into the relationship and
all hell will break loose. She sees you talking to
another mami for two seconds and she goes
red. You don’t pick her calls, even if you were
just in the bathroom, and it’s World War III. You
can’t go out with your boys as much anymore;
she says she should be your number one priority,
and that she deserves your undivided attention

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4 REASONS KENYAN WOMEN ARE TO BLAME FOR BAD RELATIONSHIPS

Allure of foreign men
I also read somewhere that it was some West
African oil tycoon bankrolling Vera Sidika’s
larger-than-life lifestyle. Chic posts flashy new
pictures every second on Instagram like it’s her
job, yet she can still afford a half-a-million-
shilling weave, a quarter-million-shilling pair of
heels, supposed fifty-million-shilling skin-
lightening surgery, three nights at the
prestigious Villa Rosa Kempinski and a holiday in
Dubai — if gossip sites are anything to go by
these days.
Then I read again that one of my celebrity
crushes, Habida, had said “Yes” to an Igbo
mister and relocated to the West; that Avril has
committed to a Zulu man and wedding bells are
lurking in the shadows and that Jolene of Tahidi
High had received a brand new Kompressor as a
birthday present from her South African
sweetheart.
I read in silence. Profound— albeit disturbed —
silence. And I wondered what it was that these
bozos had that we, Kenyan men, didn’t. I
wondered what it was that was driving our
lovely women away from their motherland to
foreigners. I wondered what a loud guy with an
accent sounding like he had just swallowed a
live frog and it peed in his mouth could possibly
do/say to my woman to make her walk out my
door and straight into his arms.
The ladies told me we don’t treat them right,
that our Oga brodas are as romantic as it gets.
And I retorted that I know I’m a douche myself,
but even then, I pull out the seat for my dates
every once in a while. And I’m a broke, good-for-
nothing son of a mere high school teacher, but
I’ve once hired a taxi to and from a date. Come
to think of it, I never even got laid that night.
Women! Huh!
Outrageous demands
Some told me it was about the money; that our
pockets just aren’t deep enough. Or that we are
too mean to go all out. To these women, I told
the story of a certain Phil [not his real name], a
former campus chum of mine who moved his
beloved out of the institution hostels into her
own fully-furnished, two-bedroom apartment.
With a 42’ inch flat screen television, state of
the art sound system et al. She had these
outrageous demands, which Phil tried his best
to meet.
Lack of gratitude
When I thought really hard about it, I realised
that maybe we weren’t the ones with the
problem. It could just as easily be the women.
See, dating a modern day Kenyan girl is as
demanding as it is tiring. You’d think you were
pulling an unmoving truck glued to your bottom.
You go out of your way to make her happy but
for her lack of gratitude, she will never
acknowlege your efforts.
It will always start slow; you on your best
behaviour and she playing ridiculously hard to
get. You will take her to lunch, probably at
Galitos (because that’s where all the ‘cool cats
are’); buy her chocolates and ice cream on her
birthday; take her for evening coffee at
Gibson’s; meet her friends and act like you’re
the nicest character on earth, tolerating all their
bull$#!t and non-stop gossip; you will even take
her out once in a while for a good time, where
you may end up spending much more than you
bargained for ‘cause these girls “don’t do cheap
liquor” then hire a cab and drop her drunken butt
back home as you walk.
‘Used and dumped’
Then she will begin feeling and hanging around
you more; getting touchy-freely with you all the
time, calling you sweet names. The goodnight
hugs will turn into pecks and then, with time,
full-blown kisses.
Then she will finally open the doors of her
kingdom and you will slide in majestically,
almost like a veteran soldier heading out to war
with a Third World country, with the precision of
a butcher.
She will moan and scream your name with a few
inferences to the glorious Man Above and you
will feel accomplished, proud and more like a
man than you ever had before. And a voice
inside you will— almost boastfully— say. “Yes,
say my name, Baby. Say my name. You smart.
You loyal!”
She will agree to a relationship the next
morning. Count yourself lucky if she doesn’t ask
the one question no man wants to hear after a
romp. Ati, “So what are we?” To which my
response is always BFFs (best friends forever).
I’ve been punched by a lady before though, so
gentlemen don’t try this at home. I know enough
men who have been used and dumped.
A couple months or so into the relationship and
all hell will break loose. She sees you talking to
another mami for two seconds and she goes
red. You don’t pick her calls, even if you were
just in the bathroom, and it’s World War III. You
can’t go out with your boys as much anymore;
she says she should be your number one priority,
and that she deserves your undivided attention

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10 THINGS YOUR MAN WANT TO HEAR

Men can be difficult to understand and as such offer a difficult time when his spouse try to communicate. Choosing the right words to sooth your man shouldn't be hard. Below are some easy terms that your man will love when you ask him.

1. “I love you”
Yes, men like to act like they are not cuddly, but silently, they love mushy
stuff. Saying “I love you” is
beyond mushy. It’s something special
said to a special man confirming his
position. He may not say “I love you” as
often, but if he loves you, he will love
hearing you say it.
2. “What’s your dream?”
Men may act filled with ego and not in need of
help. But peel off that layer of pride
using love and you find a man who
needs a woman. A man feels safe when loved by a
woman who brings order, organization
and challenge in his life. A woman who
can ask him where is he going and go
there with him as his dreams become her
dreams and her dreams become his
dreams. Besides a successful and happy
man is a reliable woman who cared to
find out who he is.
3. “Make love to me”
It is perceived to be the man’s role to
initiate sex and intimacy. But a man
loves it when occasionally his woman
brings the fire on. It’s a turn on when
sometimes the woman seduces the man,
kisses the man first, creates a sexual
experience and says when she wants it;
she will gerrit.
4. “I trust you”
When a man knows he has the trust of
his woman he opens up more. When he
knows he is covered by his woman he
will go to any war for her.
5. “I admire you. No other man is like
you”
In a world that bashes men too much, a
man gets a morale booster when his
woman praises him. Yes, there are many
good and great men in the world, but a
man wants to know in his woman’s eyes
and world, he is the greatest. Men are
combative in nature, every day is like a
war, when a woman praises and speaks
life to her man in private and in public,
she gives him more confidence to go to
war.
6. “That was great sex”
If he made love to you good, tell him.
Tell him of the great things he did. Kiss
and tell, but don’t tell others, tell him. A
man wants to feel he is a skillful sexual
lover, it is tied to his ego. If there are
areas you wish him to improve or try,
request in love. Empower him, help him
to serve you, make him your sex
machine, your sex bomb.
7. “I forgive you”
Of course two people in love are bound
to offend and hurt each other. When he
tries to apologize to you for his wrongs,
be approachable, don’t shut him out and
hide. Forgive him and close that chapter,
don’t keep bringing up his past wrongs.
When you do wrong, say sorry too.
8. “Can we pray?”
A man, whether he believes in God or
not respects prayer. The ideal situation is
the man leading the family, the
relationship/marriage in prayer. But
prayer is not the role of the man alone.
A man feels good when he can be
sheltered sometimes and she takes a
complimentary leading role. He feels
good when he has a spiritual woman,
one who is more than a pretty face with
smart brains. Prayer shows a woman
submitted to God, thus submitted to love.
9. “How was your day?”
Many women make everything about
them. They yap and yap about
themselves and want their man to ask
and listen about how their day was
without finding out how their man is or
how his day was. When a man is asked
how his day was he may be very sketchy
about his details in the first days, but ask
him that over time and soon he will give
more. Men want a listening partner too,
they want someone they can confide in,
relax and unwind with.
10. “I think you are wrong”
Men may be full of ego but they don’t
hate correction, what they are concerned
about is how they are corrected. When a
man errs, he wants his woman to
confront him but with love. Not in a
harsh way, downsizing him, shaming
him in public, insulting him and nagging
him. Correct him in private, give your
opinion and solution, don’t force it on
him. Your feminine love and warmth
will win him over. It shows you care for
him and want to build him. Men are
attracted to a woman who is a builder

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HOW TO KNOW YOUR MAN WON'T CHEAT

It’s not true that all men cheat. There are
definitely still good guys out there. Don’t
let your trust issues drive a good man
away …

No guarantees
When it comes to life and love, there are
never any guarantees. Anything can
happen at any moment and that’s what
makes things both exciting and
terrifying at the same time.
I know it’s really difficult not to worry
about the man in your life cheating on
you – especially if you’ve been cheated
on before. Trust issues? We all have
them. I say ‘all’ because I have yet to
meet a woman who has never been
cheated on.
The scars that cheating leaves behind are
nasty and they’re deep
I’ve been cheated on – more than once. It
crushed every bit of self-esteem I had
and turned me into an insecure,
obsessive mess for far too long. Literally.
I also became one of those women who
believed that all men will cheat given the
opportunity.
A few years, lots of healing and
happiness later, I have changed my mind
Please note, I have CHANGED my mind –
not lost it. I’m still hugely aware of the
fact that temptation can come knocking
at any time. And, I still think that there
are too many men who will open the
door when they hear that ‘knock’. BUT …
in amongst all those pathetic weaklings
(men who cheat are weak), there are
good men who have no interest in
cheating on the woman in their life.
His past tells you a story
No bad reputation rumours or stories?
Never cheated on any of his exes? He’s
probably a keeper.
Unless you know your man has cheated
on you or anyone else in his past, you
should try to relax and let the trust boat
float.
PS: If he has cheated on you before, why
are you still with him? History WILL
repeat itself. Believe me, I’ve been there,
done that – have the T-shirt, matching
shorts and shoes. Not worth it!
Who’s your daddy?
Look at the man who raised your
partner. If he passed away before you
had the chance to meet, ask about him.
Ask your man, ask his mom – get a good
idea of who the man behind the boy was
all those years ago.
A man who has been raised by a father
who openly showed love, kindness,
loyalty and respect for his mother and
never cheated on her, is a man who has
been shown by example, the correct way
to treat the woman in his life.
Is a good upbringing a guarantee? No.
Like I said earlier, there are no
guarantees. But, if you’ve been with him
for a while and he’s never done
anything to validate your trust issues,
he’s more than likely absorbed his
fathers good qualities and will treat you
the way he knows is right.
Faithful, decent friends
When I started dating my partner, I
remember being so impressed by his
circle of friends. Most were either in
long-term relationships or engaged /
married. Those who were single, truly
wanted to meet a special woman and
settle down.
Unlike my ex and his friends who were
either serial cheaters, divorced, never
wanted to get married or were out,
hopping from one cheap and tacky fling
to the next.
My partner is now my husband. To date,
there has not been one cheating drama
in our group of friends. Every single one
of the women who is married to or
involved with one of his friends, is
happy and content.
Who a man chooses to spend his time
with tells a story. Look and listen closely.

A man with something to hide is not
going to want you anywhere near his
phone or computer. My ex was always
super-beyond shady with his phone.
Why? He was cheating left, right and
centre.
Going on what I’ve experienced (my ex
and my husband are like night and day)
if your partner has no problem with you
picking up his phone or needing to use
his computer (for whatever reason) –
chances are really good that he’s an
honest man with no desire for a piece of
pie on the side.
Your presence is important to him and
he is fully into your relationship
Whether you’re married, living together
or dating, a man who has good
intentions makes it patently clear for you
and everyone else to see.
He clearly enjoys spending time with
you, even if it’s at home on the couch.
You will be invited out with him and his
friends and he’s proud and happy to
have you there (obviously not when it’s
not a ‘boys night’ or bulls party – you
can’t live in his pocket).
When there’s a wedding or work
function, you being there is of utmost
importance to him. You feel as though he
wants the world to know that you’re his
woman.
I have heard about men who are in a
relationship but as soon as they go out,
even if their girlfriend is there, they
ditch her and wander around the pub /
club acting like they are single and ready
to mingle.
He’s open with you and his actions speak
volumes
While no normal woman is going to
want a daily, minute-by-minute run
down, it’s not nice when a man leaves
his woman hanging / wondering about
what’s going on in his life, his heart and
his mind.
Again, going on my personal experience,
a man who is 100% into you and the
relationship he shares with you, finds it
almost effortless to communicate with
you about anything and everything. He
will want you to hear or learn about
things directly from him, not have
something pop up in some public,
random conversation.
For example, if a woman from his past
sends him a text, he not only tells you
about it, he shows you the message as
well as his response. Or, if someone at
work is flirting with him, knowing he
has someone in his life, he cares enough
to let you know what’s happening and
tells you how he’s dealing with it and
might even ask for your advice.
A man who goes the extra mile to make
his woman feel safe and secure in his
love for her, not just by what he says,
but by what he does on a daily basis, is
not someone who’s going to rush out and
cheat

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5 RULES TO KENYAN NAUGHTY TEXTING

So you decide
to send them him or her a naughty message,
but you have no idea what to say. No worries.
Here’s how to get kinky without being creepy:

1. Be imaginative
Think of it as writing a story. Be descriptive.
The more creative the sexting is, the more
vivid the image and his erection. And you’re
not lying on your couch wearing your teddy
bear pj’s, you’re wearing sexy lingerie, or,
better yet, you’re completely naked, waiting to
be ravished.
2. Don’t be afraid to say things
Often you can find out what your partner really
likes or tell them what you want to do next
time you’re in the sack together through
sexting. If you want him to go down on you or
pull your hair, say so. Ten to one, he/she will
remember what you said and try it next time
you’re getting down and dirty.
3. Don’t kill the mood
Sometimes, while waiting for your partner to
reply, your mind wanders, and it’s not always
going to wonder about sexy things, but do not
let this on to your partner. Nothing spoils the
mood more than telling your lover that you
think you should go see a doctor because you
haven’t pooped in a week.
4. Be complimentary
Tell them that what they’re describing is good
and how much it’s turning you on. Say things
like “You’re (or that’s) so sexy”, “I love when
you’re naughty”, or “You’d look so beautiful in
that position”. Believe me, it helps.
5. Don’t get creepy
Yes, we encourage you to tell your partner that
you like a bit of hair-pulling, or you like it a
certain way, but don’t, and I mean DO NOT
make jokes about voyeuristic things like
urinating on each other or about hitting your
partner. Unless you both have a mutual
understanding, and are into these kinds of
things, it will kill the mood immediately.

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SEX POSITIONS THAT SUITE YOUR PENIS SIZE

The everyman
If you’re the boring average guy with a boring
average penis, then try the crouching dragon.
Let your lady put her hands on your shoulders
and let her wrap her legs around your waist
before you crouch down in a squat for her.
Then you grind like she’s sitting in a chair.
If you get it right, she will see more than
spreadsheets and ink stains in you.
The big man
So you've got a big one. Congratulations are in
order (unless it’s one of those rubbery fire
hose types).
Play nice with that thing. Allow 15 minutes of
foreplay for your lady’s vagina to expand, then
allow her to be on top to control how deep
that monster goes.
Hello there, little fella
So you’ve got a stub – that’s not ideal, but
don’t worry about it too much. Have your lady
rest her shoulders and head on a pillow and lift
up her butt. Then have her press her thighs
together for a tighter fit in the doggy position.

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12 RULES THAT WILL IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE

How can two walk together unless they
agree? The truth is, many marriages get
ruined because of misunderstandings.
Misunderstandings are brought about by
a lack of agreement on how to handle
the issues that affect each marriage.
Failing to agree will lead to the husband
and wife interpreting things differently
leading to feelings of hurt, insensitivity,
rejection, intolerance and indifference.
Agree with your spouse on the do’s and
don’ts. Have these rules.
1. “Sex rules”
Agree that you can have sex in
whichever way and position, but also
agree on what you will not try out. For
example; no anal sex, or no
masturbation when you have each other,
or no pornography use, or no inflicting
pain or no making love when she is on
monthly periods and if he is horny then,
how will she pleasure him? Each couple
is different. Agree on what are the
limits.
2. “Phone rules”
Agree on how to handle the phone. For
example, no chatting with others past
11pm for that is intimate time, no
secrecy, no need to walk away when
someone calls, inform your spouse about
who has called.
3. “Money rules”
Agree on how to use money. Will you
have a joint bank account? What
percentage can each use without the
requirement of notifying the other? Who
pays for what bills? Saving. Investing. No
giving money to in-laws without joint
consent.
4. “Coming home rules”
What should you do in case you’re
coming home late? Make a phone call?
How late is too late to come home? Your
spouse doesn’t mind you coming home
late as long as it is agreed. Marriage is
not about selfish you but you two as
partners.
5. “Social rules”
Agree you will make effort to introduce
each other to your friends. Agree on how
close friends of the opposite gender can
get. Agree on which friends to keep.
Agree on how often friends can visit.
Your home shouldn’t be invaded by
friends. There needs to be boundaries.
6. “Information rules”
Agree to notify each other where you
are, even if with just a simple text. Agree
on the need to tell each other your
individual schedule of the day. Keep
your spouse in the know.
7. “Temper rules”
Agree on what to do when you both get
mad at each other. Do you give yourself
space? Withdraw for some minutes? Do
you deal with the issue quickly? No going
to sleep mad at each other. Conflict
resolution.
8. “Chore rules”
Agree on who does what in the house.
This will prevent any of you from feeling
like they are doing too much.
9. “Social media rules”
Agree on the do’s and don’ts of social
media. For example, no being Facebook
friends with your ex, no commenting
suggestively on other people’s post, no
indecent behaviour, no airing domestic
issues on social media.
10. “Work rules”
Agree on limits of work. For example, no
coming home with work, what to do
when your careers conflict? What to do
when you have different working hours?
When to take leave or off days?
11. “Parenthood rules”
Agree on how to discipline the children,
who does what, who goes for Parents’
days in school, do you take turns? What
kind of food will the children eat?
12. “Individual space rules”
Agree that sometimes each of you will
want some alone time, to work or to
meditate or just relax. Agree on how to
notify your spouse when you want a few
minutes to yourself. Your spouse will
give you room if you need it.
Agreeing on these key issues brings
about order, peace and unity; both of
you will know how to navigate and
behave.
If your marriage is chaotic because of
lack of order. It’s not too late to have a
conversation leading to the agreement
on these issues.
Make your marriage simple.

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MAJOR REASONS RELATIONSHIPS END DESPITE BEING IN LOVE

Building relationships is a real art, and it
takes much patience on the part of both
partners to keep their feeling on fire. Any of
us has bad days, and it’s important for a
partner to show support and understanding
during hard times as well. Unfortunately,
sometimes a series of silly
misunderstandings turns into a serious issue
and threatens to ruin everything you’ve
worked on for so long.
In such case, the first thing to do is to
recognize that your relationship faces
challenges and requires fixing. No need to rip
your hair out dwelling on past mistakes and
ways to avoid them. The mill cannot grind
with the water that is past. It needs a fresh
stream to move on.
You also need to take a fresh look at your
relationship. Think carefully what might have
gone wrong and try to put yourself in your
partner’s place. Be sure, though it may sound
too simple, this step is a huge milestone in
your love recovery journey. In case you don’t
know where to start, check the below list of
most common feelings killers.
1. Boredom
No one expects you to be a resident of
Entertainment City and strike your partner
with a Broadway show each evening. But if
you notice that you haven’t spent a single
night our during the last month, and the only
thing you’re up on Friday evening is checking
your Facebook page, it’s high time to figure
out how to escape routine. A zoo visit, a
weekend sea trip or a theatre opening night
might be a working strategy to win your
partner’s attention back. Keep in mind that
communication is a basis of understanding, so
talk to your boyfriend or girlfriend and find out
their preferences.
2. Big changes
If you’ve recently changed your job, residence
or experienced some mental shift, you
probably feel differently about everything
that’s going on in your life. But your partner
may not know about such developments. A
simple conversation works magic and saves
you from paying big money for family
psychologist visits.
3. Absence of desire
It’s hard to find more terrible feeling than the
one when your partner no longer sees you as
a good lover. Making love is an important
component of any relationship as
communication, respect, emotional
involvement, etc. So if you feel that you don’t
wait for a night to come the way you used to,
seek a bit of diversity. Rent a room in a love
hotel to change your everyday bedroom
surrounding or visit an erotic shop together
with a partner to pick up a few toys you both
would like to try. Find an erotic video that will
remind your partner of times you used to have
and push them to make new experiments.
4. Neglect
There are some points in a relationship when
you completely ignore your partner without
even understanding it. For example, if you’re
in the middle of research paper defence or
facing some health issues, it’s hard to find a
minute to ask about what’s new in their lives.
But you’d better start paying some attention
to their needs because, otherwise, it may
happen that after you overcome your
difficulties, there will be nobody around to
celebrate with you.
5. Too much criticism
Follow you each time your partner asks your
advice on what to wear or which café to
choose for your anniversary celebration. If
you’ve noticed that each your answer
contains a bit of criticism, this may be the
beginning of the end. Also, watch your words
when you’re talking about their family
members. Nobody expects you to be crazy
about their parents, but you should understand
that your partner loves and cares about their
relatives, and if you don’t want them to feel
distant, be patient and show some sensitivity.
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4 INSULTS NOT TO TELL YOUR MAN

Women don’t need to be muscular to fight.
Our wars tend to be more verbal and the
venom from a woman’s tongue-lashing could
be worse than a viper’s bite. Woe unto you if
you find yourself in the path of a woman’s
wrath. These are some of the verbal attacks
women should spare their men:

1.Don’t compare him with your ex:
Well, at
least not loud. You can always make that
comparison in your mind. No man would want
to hear that a fellow guy is superior to him, in
whatever department.
“You know Tom used to rub my feet. You do
not know how to treat a lady!” Shush, woman!
That is not how to put it. How about, “Darling,
I would really love to feel your magical hands
rubbing my feet.” Simple. That will get him
working on your feet better than he polishes
his car!
Your ex might have had a bigger chest, fatter
wallet, better manners, and was a real stud in
bed. But you are not with him now, are you?
So, drop that baggage and work on your
current flame.
2.Don’t belittle his financial status: A man’s
lifeline is his ego. Even those who are more
like pussies want to believe they are fearsome
lions. Just massage that darn thing. A woman
who has mastered the art of stroking a man’s
ego will have him eating from the palm of her
hand and he’ll do anything to please her.
“Mwanamume ni mfuko” is a saying that men
know too well. Nothing puffs a man’s
confidence than the bulge of his wallet. If his
is as voluminous as the Merriam-Webster
Dictionary, he would have a spring in his step
and approach the table of men with an air of
assurance. But a man with a tissue-thin wallet
without a cent to his name to even buy you a
chewing gum, is a timid wreck. The last thing
you want to do is rub it in his face that he is a
broke ass.
“Real men take their women on holiday
overseas, yet you can’t even afford to treat
me to a miserable cup of coffee for my
birthday!” Please don’t go there my sister. The
next time he happens on money, that bugger
is going to drink it all with his friends and
generously tip some barmaid for just laughing
at his dry jokes. After all, you consider him
useless, ama?
Cases of women denying their broke husbands
a roll in the sack are not uncommon. These
women will not just nag, but come to an inch
of physical confrontation at the slightest
provocation, just because the poor guy has
fallen on hard times. Even neighbours can tell
when the man is broke: “Ukiona hao
wakipigana, ujue huyo mwanamume hana pesa, ”
they would whisper. It’s surprising how the
same woman would be proudly talking of “my
loving husband” if the guy gets a windfall.
3.Don’t make fun of his poor performance in
bed:
Some men are just lousy lays. It would
be all over before you can even say
ejaculation! So, there you are, left with an
unfulfilled longing and a rage that could push
you to strangle the snoring excuse of a man
beside you. However, some women have too
much expectation. Just because you watched
a movie in which a woman was held against
the wall and the man kept going at her like a
piston doesn’t mean that happens in real life.
It’s a movie...duh!
If he is a one-minute man whose ride gets
punctured when you are just readying yourself
for a rollercoaster, talk to him. Try and find
solutions to remedy the ‘Johnny-come-quick’
problem. Please, don’t share your sexual
frustrations on WhatsApp, Facebook or in
chama meetings.
Calling out another man’s name when he hits
the sweet spot: If you are a ‘fisilet’ and he’s
not the only man in your life, you know the
rules. No names please...when whoever is
doing it just right, stick to “oh, baby!” no
matter how good it gets,

4.Drag his mother in insults: So your man
came home late high as a kite. You are super
mad at him and feel like kicking him in the
groin. Then he asks for food and you blurt it
out, “Si uambie mamako akupikie!”
Oops! Girl, do not under any circumstance try
that at home! If you must insult him, deal with
him as an individual, no need to drag his
mother or clan into it. Men and their mothers
are like women and their fathers.

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7 FOODS TO AVOID BEFORE SEX

Since time in memorial, foods have been used as aphrodisiacs,and yes they bring out the kinky during sex but what is less known are the effects of certain food have on you during or after sex. Below is a guide to foods you should avoid before having sex
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1-Peppermint
Bad breath may be a turn-off, but
freshening it up might not help your
situation in the sack. The menthol in
peppermint has been shown to reduce
testosterone levels, sending sex drive
plummeting, says Dr. Richard. Chomping
on peppermint-flavored gum means
more bad news, since chewing brings air
into your system, making you burp.
While moans and grunts may enhance
sex, belches are better left out of the
soundtrack. If mint's a must before a
romp, try peppermint tea. It's relatively
low in menthol and it's better than gum
for digestion, says Robyn Youkilis, a
certified health coach and founder of
Your Healthiest You.
2-Tonic Water
If your drink of choice is gin and tonic,
you may want to save it for nights when
nookie isn't on the menu. Bubbly
beverages, including soda and seltzer,
can make you gassy and bloated (not a
sexy combo!), the ingredient that
gives tonic water its bitter taste—may
temporarily lower testosterone levels
and even sperm count, bad news for
anyone trying to get pregnant. For a
better beverage, turn to unsweetened
tea, which boosts your mood , improves
focus and promotes better blood flow
throughout the body, an ideal set-up for
sex.
3-Fries
Do you want fries with that? If you're
hoping to get lucky, your man's answer
should be "no." As with hot dogs, the
trans-fat in fries can negatively impact
testosterone levels and circulation. Fries'
high salt content also can make it trickier
for men with high blood pressure to stay
erect. For healthy folks, the sodium can
bring on the not-so-sexy sensation of
bloating. If you're craving potato, eat a
baked one instead, It releases the feel-good chemical
dopamine, improving your time between
the sheets.
4-Canned Food
This simple solution for dinner is also
one of the simplest ways to kill the
mood. All canned foods' high sodium
levels can make you gassy since the salt
causes you to retain fluid, If you can't kick cans to the
curb, at least wash the contents in a
mesh strainer or soak the food in water
for about 20 minutes to nix some of the
salt, recommends Youkilis.
5-A Bottle of Wine
If a glass of Malbec sets the mood, a
whole bottle should really get things
going, right? Wrong—too much booze
can turn that initial buzz into a buzz kill.
Alcohol lowers your sensitivity to touch
and weakens orgasms, A study
also found that sober men maintained
their erections better than their drunk
counterparts. So if you're hoping to
score, limit your liquor to two drinks
each.
6-Fruit After a Meal
Sucking on strawberries sounds like a
sexy post-dinner treat. Nope! Fruits
digest pretty quickly when there's no
slow-to-digest supper holding them back.
This lag time can cause tummy troubles,
like bloating, cramping and bowel
problems, says Youkilis. A better idea:
Wait at least two hours after a hefty
dinner until you start a fruit-for-all.
7-Energy Drinks
Keeping you and your partner satisfied
takes all the energy you can get. Even
though energy drinks seem like stamina
saviors, the hefty doses of sugar and
caffeine pair up for only a temporary
surge, resulting in a crash later, your
energy may not last long enough to get
you to the finish line. Too much sugar
also can lower testosterone levels,
zapping libido. Youkilis suggests sipping
black currant juice, which nourishes the
adrenal glands for a natural, enduring
energy boost.

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HOW TO DATE

Are you in love? If yes, the most ideal thing to do is to approach the person you bear such feelings to and find out if they feel the same way. The toughest part of it is how to proceed with dating  when he/she acknowledges they have feelings to Below are a few tips to dating that we hope will be helpful.

Try to get into a situation where you’ve got a
chance to talk to the person. If you have mutual
friends, let them introduce you. You could also
send them a text message or try to make
contact on chat – but if they don’t answer, don’t
pester them. If you notice they’re not really
responding or they’re even trying to avoid you,
there’s a good chance they don’t return your
feelings.
Bear in mind, however, that there’s an extra
tricky puzzle in the love game: some people can
be standoffish even if they’re really attracted to
you, because they don’t know how to cope with
their feelings! Or maybe they feel they shouldn’t
be responding to your advances even if they’d
like to. So don’t immediately assume someone
isn’t interested in you because they don’t
respond straight away.
Some guys have the idea – often picked up from
movies – that if you keep hassling a woman long
enough she will give in to you. People might tell
you that if a girl says no or even gets upset or
angry, you should ignore it and not give up.
This is a fantasy – if someone reacts like this to
your advances, you’re just being abusive.
If you get a clear no, be respectful. Move on and
leave the person alone.

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4 THINGS TO AND NOT TO DO WHEN IN A FIGHT

Relationships are not all happy or full of bliss. This we all know. Due to various differences that occur between you and your partner, a fight is often bound to ensue. But how do you take care of disagreements? Compose yourself during fights?. In most relationships, the end result of actions taken during such times usually takes a turn downwards in respect to various partnerships. Below are 4 DO AND DON'TS WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELVES IN A FIGHT

DO....
1.Listen and respect
Do pay attention to your partner’s
position, no matter how strongly you
believe you’re right. A fair fight is one
in which both parties have equal air
time. If you’re yelling at the top of your
voice 90 percent of the time or your
partner is shouting at you for majority
of the fight, it isn’t fair.

2.Criticise constructively
Always deliver points that will
eventually help build a stronger
relationship. In a fight, we often get
carried away by emotions and there’s
little room left for constructive thinking.
In such moments, remind yourself that
the argument is only one tiny event in
your important relationship and shift
your focus towards constructive
criticism.

3.Mean what you say
When we’re under pressure we often
take it out on the people we’re closest
too. So if a row is brewing and you’re
the one starting it, think whether it’s
your partner that’s really the source of
your annoyance, or is it your boss, your
bad day, or your money worries.
Before the fight gets started, take a
deep breath and wonder if you really
have something to argue about. Don't
end up saying something to your
partner that you'll regret just because
you're stressed out for some other
reason.

4.Make up afterwards
Recovery from a fight can take time –
sometimes days or even weeks –
depending on the severity of the row.
Do your bit to make a smoother
transition . And make it as soon as
possible. Let your partner know you still
love him or her despite your
differences.
Leave a note on the refrigerator or get
some flowers. A big hug is probably
even better. Or how about some racy
sex? Making up after a fight is essential
to return to normality.

DONT...
1.Get abusive
Never get physically or emotionally
abusive with your partner while arguing.
If you hit your partner, they might give
in but only because they are scared or
frightened.
And don’t get into name-calling. By
putting your partner into a stereotype,
you only end up angering and hurting
them. Think how you would feel if your
partner did the same to you? Also, if
you continue telling your partner that
they are, let’s say, “good-for-nothing,”
not only will they start behaving in a
way that they fit into that stereotype,
the fear is that you could start believing
it too.

2.Make threats
At all costs avoid making emotional
threats like, “If you leave me, I will hurt
myself,” or “If you carry on like this, it's
over.” This will just force your partner
into a corner and leave matters
unresolved.
Of course, you or your partner might
really think you've reached the end of
the line. This doesn't call for wild
threats, but serious talk and respect for
the other person's view - even if it
breaks your heart.

3.Stone-wall
Don’t evade answers to important
questions. Don’t avoid discussions ,
arguments or conflicts fearing the
outcome. Learn how to tackle them
maturely using the above tips and stop
running away from fights. If you don’t
involve yourself in a discussion, it could
leave your partner dissatisfied and
result in an unhappy relationship.

4.Go to sleep on an argument
Finally, it’s an old cliché, but you’ll feel
much better if you manage to make up
before bedtime, even if you haven’t
settled your differences.
What’s more there’s even science to
back it up. Sleep researchers
discovered that bad emotional
experiences get worse in your memory
if you go to sleep before you’ve got
back into a better mood. So push
yourself to snap out of the sulk and
reach out for that cuddle!

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5 FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT CHEATING

Cheating is a nightmare in every relationship. A lot of myths have circulated within the years to an extent of inducing fear in partnerships that should be forged by love and trust. Is it wrong or right? This varies between parties but all in all it is a behavior that results to pain and heartbreaks.
These are 5 facts you should know about cheating.

1. Does kissing count?
Most people who are in a relationship
assume that both sides will be completely
faithful to one another, just like in a
marriage. But sometimes people cheat and that can lead to a big crisis in a
relationship.
Whether it’s kissing another person, a
one-night stand or a long-term love affair,
infidelity usually really hurts the person
you’re in a relationship with. For some,
even becoming too attached emotionally
to someone else feels like being unfaithful
– they see it as ‘emotional cheating’.

2. The end of the relationship?
Although cheating on your partner is so
often so painful for them, it happens more
than you might think. For example, 34
percent of men and 19 percent of women
in the USA say they’ve been unfaithful to
their spouses at some point. But the fact
that it’s common doesn’t mean it’s not a
risk for your relationship. In fact, cheating
doubles the chances of divorce , a study
found.
But some relationships survive even if one
partner has cheated on the other. You
might agree that even though one person
has made a mistake, you value your
relationship enough to stay together. But
even then, don’t expect things to be back
to normal straight away. It takes time to
build up trust again.

3.Reasons for cheating
There are lots of different reasons why
people cheat. They might be unhappy in
their relationship or unsatisfied with the
sex. But some studies claim that wanting
to cheat can also have genetic reasons.
People with a certain ‘cheating gene’
variant are more likely to have casual sex
and one-night stands – and to cheat on
their partners.
Some sexperts even claim that the entire
idea of being faithful to your partner all
the time is absurd and like a ‘sexual jail’.
After all, they say statistically for human
beings cheating is more the exception
than the rule, and monogamy is a myth .
But of course, there’s no need to follow
through on the impulse to be unfaithful:
even if all humans were genetically
predisposed to cheat, it doesn’t mean
they have to do it.

4.Cheating, the internet and porn
So what about looking at porn while you’re
in a relationship? There are different
opinions about whether watching porn
means cheating. Most people think it’s
OK. But if you lie to your partner, feel
guilty about watching porn and do it in
secret, it’s probably not a good thing for
your relationship.
It’s even more complicated when it comes
to online flirting and cybersex. For some,
it’s totally fine to have a flirt with
someone else online while you’re in a
relationship. Others would consider it
cheating. Again, honesty and openness
are probably the most important things
when dealing with this question, but it’s
definitely a sensitive topic.

5.Can you spot a cheater?
Clearly, to avoid heartbreak it would just
be the best option to get together with
someone who definitely won’t cheat on
you. But is there a way to tell if someone
is a cheater? Well, apparently there is …
just listen to them talking!
So how can you tell a cheater by their
voice? Women with high voices and men
with low voices were more likely to be
unfaithful, a Canadian study found

What would you do if you found out he/she has been or is cheating to you?

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9 FACTS KENYAN WOMEN DONT WANT TO HEAR

1. S3x doesn't keep a man, if you like, turn 360% on bed, he
will still dump you. Bleach until you
become white, if he doesn't notice the
qualities of a wife in you, he will leave
you.
2. A man who wins your love with cash
may not stay forever. Real men don’t
settle down with fake women who love
money.
3. The beauty of a woman can take her
to a Palace but her character will
determine how long she stays in the
palace. Beauty attracts men but
character keeps them.
4. Material things definitely have its
merits but it cannot alone provide the
riches of a truly meaningful life.
5. Being s£xy without a character will not
get you a husband; you will only get a
boyfriend.
6. S3x can bring pleasure but it can
never bring love, sex is a product of
love, love is not a product of s3x.
7. S3x can make a man stay with you
overnight but love will make him stay
for a lifetime.
8. There are some things that money
just can't buy like manners, moral and
integrity.
9. How you dress will definitely
determine how men will address you.

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THE WORST KIND OF ADVICE FOR A MARRIED WOMAN

There is nothing
wrong with listening but as a grown woman,
you need to know how to separate the wheat
from chaff.
Using sex as a weapon or reward
There are a lot of ways you can get what you
want from your marriage or relationship but if
you tend to go towards manipulation, you will
hurt yourself in the long run. There is good
manipulation but there is bad manipulation
which makes the other person feel
shortchanged. Bad manipulation is the reason
we have the sponsor situation, side chick and
all those other people that are willing to give it
up for literally nothing. Because there was a
not so smart wife who was told, just use sex
as a tool. Don’t worry, there is a lady that will
help you and once they go down that route,
after the first time, the rest is a piece of cake.
Hell fire will burn them but you will also be
there because you instigated it.
‘All men do this…Don’t let it happen to you.
You should…’ said all friends to their friend
Most marriages start with people being on a
cordial note but wait until you really get into
those chamas. Then it is a screw is normally
twisted in a woman’s head. You were all doing
fine until the birds started to whisper. You
need to watch the people you listen to. You
never know where a woman’s problems in her
marriage came from. And you will never know
if she is the one that started it all herself. If
things are working out, just keep your own
counsel. The less people you let in, the less
the drama.
Financial matters
I hope the two of you had a talk about money
before deciding to settle down. If you did not,
it is going to cause problems and the longer
you avoid it, the more the issues. What you
agree on is what you should stick to. Your
mother will tell you to hide stuff, works both
ways. You can hide for the family benefit. On
the other hand, hiding at times ends up badly
when bad investment decisions are made or
when you die before him and the lawyer gets
everything-because you never told anyone.
Your friend will tell you to keep your money
yours that is ambiguous because I will not lie
that I like my money being mine. That is the
best way to make sure a man does not stop
taking care of his family because he knows you
can. You can help out with the bills though.

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PORN FOR THE BLIND- WEIRD

A popular website has launched blue
movies for blind people with audio
descriptions.
Pornhub now has 60 audio videos with
voiceovers done by professional voice
actors.
The website said: “Our described video
campaign seeks to help institute a larger
dialogue within PornHub’s community
with regards to how we can not only
better serve the visually impaired, but
also to understand how to make the site
accessible to all.”
Pornhub, part of the Pornhub NETWORK
campaign, is a pornographic video
sharing website and the largest
pornography site on the
Internet. Pornhub was launched in 2007
and in March 2010, Pornhub was bought
by Manwin (now known as MindGeek),
which owns numerous other porn
websites.

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7 FOODS TO AVOID BEFORE HAVING SEX

Since time in memorial, foods have been used as aphrodisiacs,and yes they bring out the kinky during sex but what is less known are the effects of certain food have on you during or after sex. Below is a guide to foods you should avoid before having sex
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1-Peppermint
Bad breath may be a turn-off, but
freshening it up might not help your
situation in the sack. The menthol in
peppermint has been shown to reduce
testosterone levels, sending sex drive
plummeting, says Dr. Richard. Chomping
on peppermint-flavored gum means
more bad news, since chewing brings air
into your system, making you burp.
While moans and grunts may enhance
sex, belches are better left out of the
soundtrack. If mint's a must before a
romp, try peppermint tea. It's relatively
low in menthol and it's better than gum
for digestion, says Robyn Youkilis, a
certified health coach and founder of
Your Healthiest You.
2-Tonic Water
If your drink of choice is gin and tonic,
you may want to save it for nights when
nookie isn't on the menu. Bubbly
beverages, including soda and seltzer,
can make you gassy and bloated (not a
sexy combo!), the ingredient that
gives tonic water its bitter taste—may
temporarily lower testosterone levels
and even sperm count, bad news for
anyone trying to get pregnant. For a
better beverage, turn to unsweetened
tea, which boosts your mood , improves
focus and promotes better blood flow
throughout the body, an ideal set-up for
sex.
3-Fries
Do you want fries with that? If you're
hoping to get lucky, your man's answer
should be "no." As with hot dogs, the
trans-fat in fries can negatively impact
testosterone levels and circulation. Fries'
high salt content also can make it trickier
for men with high blood pressure to stay
erect. For healthy folks, the sodium can
bring on the not-so-sexy sensation of
bloating. If you're craving potato, eat a
baked one instead, It releases the feel-good chemical
dopamine, improving your time between
the sheets.
4-Canned Food
This simple solution for dinner is also
one of the simplest ways to kill the
mood. All canned foods' high sodium
levels can make you gassy since the salt
causes you to retain fluid, If you can't kick cans to the
curb, at least wash the contents in a
mesh strainer or soak the food in water
for about 20 minutes to nix some of the
salt, recommends Youkilis.
5-A Bottle of Wine
If a glass of Malbec sets the mood, a
whole bottle should really get things
going, right? Wrong—too much booze
can turn that initial buzz into a buzz kill.
Alcohol lowers your sensitivity to touch
and weakens orgasms, A study
also found that sober men maintained
their erections better than their drunk
counterparts. So if you're hoping to
score, limit your liquor to two drinks
each.
6-Fruit After a Meal
Sucking on strawberries sounds like a
sexy post-dinner treat. Nope! Fruits
digest pretty quickly when there's no
slow-to-digest supper holding them back.
This lag time can cause tummy troubles,
like bloating, cramping and bowel
problems, says Youkilis. A better idea:
Wait at least two hours after a hefty
dinner until you start a fruit-for-all.
7-Energy Drinks
Keeping you and your partner satisfied
takes all the energy you can get. Even
though energy drinks seem like stamina
saviors, the hefty doses of sugar and
caffeine pair up for only a temporary
surge, resulting in a crash later, your
energy may not last long enough to get
you to the finish line. Too much sugar
also can lower testosterone levels,
zapping libido. Youkilis suggests sipping
black currant juice, which nourishes the
adrenal glands for a natural, enduring
energy boost.

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