If you have kids of your own,dating a single dad can be fulfilling but can also bring its challenges which include the ex who is most likely to be the mom of his kids. So even though you two may be blindly in love, with this kind of relationship you need to factor in the children from the get go. Below are 5 tips that will help you have a great relationship with that single dad you want to date.
1. RESPECT THE BABY MAMA
whether their relationship is great or they can't see each other anymore, never trash her. Especially not in front of the kids, yours or his. Remember she was once someone special to him and is still his kids mother. What you really want is to set a positive tone for the new relationship based on you two and the kids and your life together.
2 . DON'T BE JEALOUS
If you don't have children of your own,and you want to date a single dad, be sure of what you are in for. With his kids around,he will not devote to you entirely. He may even delay your meet with his kids until he is satisfied you are up for it. Don't take this personally. Remember that his kids will always come first and if you can't handle sharing his affection then the single dad isn't your type.
3. HE HAS BAGGAGE
If you are serious about dating that single dad, you should be ready to accept him with all that is attached to him. Children, bills, ex wife issues etc. After all you want him to accept you with everything you bring to the table.
4. TAKE YOUR TIME
When you are in love,it practically a license for you to hurt each other. If you have kids, you are giving him a chance to hurt you and your kids and it is extremely important you don't rush and test the different aspects of your relationship before you introduce yourselves to each others kids. Wait until you are sure you are both committed to seeing your relationship in the long haul before you meet with his kids or yours meet him.
5. SPEND TIME WITH HIS KIDS
Create time for you and his kids and if you have kids to encourage him to do the same with yours. His kids are an extension of him and if you can't learn to love them,the relationship is pretty much doomed. This applies to him also. Remember you two chose each other and your kids didn't have a say in it. Give them time to grow, know and love you
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